Okay so maybe this one will border on a rant, but then again rants are what I’m best at most of the time. Gotta play to your strengths right? So I’m back complaining/criticising something else that grinds my gears, and I’m well aware that some may be offended by what I’ve got to say but let me just point out, I’m a writer, if I’m not offending somebody at some point then I’m not doing my job properly and you’re only offended because deep down, you know I’m right.
Cheating, a crime as old as time itself, not selective to gender, age, sexuality or social status. The ultimate betrayal in some cases, and made ever so more prevalent thanks to the wonderful world of social media has become ever so more prevalent. Gone are the days when heartbroken people would confide in friends or have drunken outbursts on a night out. Nowadays people air their dirty laundry for the whole world to see, but that’s not my point…. do I have a point? As always we’ll see.
I get that people make mistakes, I’ve made more than most and I’m not trying to come across all mightier than thou/sat on some perfect boyfriend/human high horse, I write these things because as mentioned before, it’s my job and I do it because I love you all. (Well most of you anyway)
But enough about me, cheaters, you cocky, self assured Lando Calrissian’s of the relationship world (Lando Calrissian betrayed Han Solo to Darth Vader if you’re wondering about that particular reference) So you’ve made a mistake and by some small miracle have been forgiven for your crime, or in some ludicrous cases, crimes. Do you morons have any idea just what you are doing or the harm you are causing? I sincerely hope so. The person you betrayed has given you their hearts, let you into their world, told you things nobody else knows about them, all their hopes, dreams, fears, loves, weaknesses, in full their trust. So what do you do, chase the nearest skank/bellend, messaging them in secret, going home with them after a boozy night out. If that’s what you’re into, and there’s nothing wrong with it, then don’t be in a relationship, it’s that simple. Girls, lads, it’s all the same. And as for the people who forgive, I salute your inner strength to some degree (having never suffered such a betrayal myself, nor committed such an act) But at the same time, I have to ask, is this really the person you intend on spending the rest of your life with? Yes you may love them, I know how hard it is to give something like that up, but do they truly love you as much as you love them? I’d bet heavily that they don’t and I don’t mean to shatter anybody’s illusions, but I’m only telling you what that little voice of reason keeps whispering to you in the back of your mind. I’m sure you tell your friends and yourself that you have forgiven them and that you love them, that it was a mistake, nothing more and while that might have some shred of truth to it, I’d also bet that you are lying, more frighteningly to yourself.
Some clichéd tool wrote that “Broken hearts heal,” while that is true, a bruised heart is something much worse, the bruise spreads, infects every fibre of your being with resentment, spilling out during the most desperate arguments where you throw what that person did back in their face, finally admitting to the world that in fact no, you haven’t forgiven them, far from it. Don’t be under the illusion that this fool is the ‘one’, they wouldn’t do that to you, not in a million years. Maybe I am naïve enough to believe in certain things being perfect, and I’m well aware that this is an imperfect world, but you’ve gotta believe in something right?
For those who have cheated and been forgiven, stop it, don’t do it again, it’s nothing short of a miracle that they have forgiven you and you got to keep something wonderful that you don’t deserve. Don’t believe me, the next time your significant other tells you they love you, look into their eyes, I’ll guarantee that light they held for you has faded a little, and once it’s gone, it’s never coming back.
Your favourite Scoundrel xx